A Man and A Woman [movie review]

A Man and A Woman [Review – Movie]

“I’m not angry at you. I’m angry at myself.” – Lee Sang Min (A Man and A Woman)

I didn’t intend to post a review on this movie because of the sensitive topic it brought up, an affair. But too emotional after I finished the movie and had this urge to post a review.

A Man and A Woman told a story about an architecht and a fashion boutique CEO. Both were successful in their respective career. Both were married. Both were miserable with their married life.

The Man, Ki Hong (played by Gong Yoo) was a lonely father of one little daughter. His wife was mentally unstable and it affected his daughter. His daughter had depression due to her mother. The woman, Sang Min (played by Jeon Do Yeon) went through tough daily life due to her down syndrome son. Had too much ego to send him to special school even though her husband already suggested it to make their lives easier.

Both sent their kid to a special class (I don’t quite know what it was) in Finland. Worried about sending her son alone to the camp, she reached out to her cigarette but she did not have a light with her. Sang Min saw Ki Hong and asked for a light. The next thing that happened, they went to the campground to pick up the kids –aka cancelling their camp. They found the campground but Sang Min decided to let her son be.

On their way back, snowstorm hit the city and forced them to stay the night at a nearby hostel. And that was the start of their needing of each other.

I am not justifying and glorifying affairs. An affair is an affair. It’s such a hideous thing 2 adults can do together. But the more I watched it, the more understanding I got about the characters’ position. Knowing Ki Hong’s stances, I somehow understood why the needed affection from other woman. He had one tough life. He had no one who would pat his shoulder saying “you did well”, “it’s okay”. He had to lead his sad life and protect his daughter and wife too. He had no one to lean on. He longed for affection.

I somehow understood how fast he felt clicked with Sang Min. He needed affection. And Sang Min could give it to him. Sang Min was also in need to affection. Both needed affection. Both needed some sort of escape from their harsh real lives. And being together they felt better even though not sure if it made them happy, for real.

Sang Min hesitated A LOT at first. But maybe –maybe- because her life was also tough she became bold and just go through with the sex. To the point admitting that she had “another man” in front of her husband.

Their story was told in such careful way, very subtle, and humble. The approach was cleverly done. It succeeded in making me feel bad at myself for rooting for them together. An affair is an affair. And it should never be justified. But their “affair” felt….. okay? They need each other and truly longed for each other. They had each other to forget for a second that they had big burden on their shoulders.

I also have one memorable scene. A scene that broke me into million pieces. Ki Hong had too much thought and so he went to the terrace and climbed the terrace separator (?). His daughter saw him there and she grabbed –sort of pinched the end of his pants- him even though she let go of her hand once Ki Hong was aware with her presence. The nights before his daughter saw the mother on the same spot, a little bit tipsy and made such a commotion on their own party. His daughter was very afraid at that time that she peed her pants. And seeing Ki Hong on the very same spot terrified her.

She grabbed (pinched the tip of?) Ki Hong’s pants and hugged him. It was such a big turn of event for Ki Hong. Knowing that his daughter was extremely caution with people and shy, she never had a conversation with him, and she was there like she was afraid her father would end up like her mother. She took the courage to “save” him, and gave him a warm hug. It was extremely powerful. I completely lost it when they hugged. I cried a river! And even now while typing this I’m crying. That one scene topped everything. That one scene is truly powerful.

Movie was accompanied with brilliant music score and glorious cinematography. I mean…. Just look at these…….

Every shot was carefully done and gracefully done. Many times the camera angle played a big role complementing the whole atmosphere of a certain scene. For example below scene. Ki Hong was contradicting with himself whether or not to go on with Sang Min. Sang Min on the other side, was already waiting for him at the hotel room. The dramatic shot of crying Ki Hong pain me.

 

Look at the posters too (the very first photo on this post and below)

Beautiful!

The characters did not say a lot throughout the movie. Many scenes were left without BGM too. And I truly think it was a brilliant move. It somehow made the movie really humble and classic.

I also have one memorable scene. A scene that broke me into million pieces. Ki Hong had too much thought and so he went to the terrace and climbed the terrace separator (?). His daughter saw him there and she grabbed –sort of pinched the end of his pants- him even though she let go of her hand once Ki Hong was aware with her presence. The nights before his daughter saw the mother on the same spot, a little bit tipsy and made such a commotion on their own party. His daughter was very affraid at that time that she peed her pants. And seeing Ki Hong on the very same spot terrified her.

She grabbed (pinched?) Ki Hong’s pants and hugged him. It was such a big turn of event for Ki Hong. Knowing that his daughter was extremely caution with people and shy, she never had a conversation with him, and she was there like she was afraid her father would end up like her mother. She took the courage to “save” him, and gave him a warm hug, it was extremely powerful. I completely lost it when they hugged. I cried a river! And even now, while typing this I’m crying. That one scene topped everything. That one scene is truly powerful. Because of that too Ki Hong decided to end their affair when Sang Min went all in with their sort of relationship.

It was very surprising that I cried a lot watching Movie. Because I ached for them. I understood their stances. I understood their longing. Once again I’m not justifying their act but I understood why they did that. Until the end, both of them were still in “need” of each other.

I’m not going to call it one beautiful movie. But Movie is absolutely one of the better movies (released in 2016) in term of execution.

PS, Jeon Do Yeon was freaking pretty in this movie!!

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